Tuesday, 1 December 2015

Dating Thai Boys (36) Tigers, Swans and Lions

Dating Thai Boys (36) Tigers, Swans and Lions

From reading gay Thailand forums and speaking with friends, Farang dating behavior can be classified into three groups, which I named for similarity to animal kingdom.

Tigers meet for reproduction and then go separate ways. Many sex tourists fit this category. In sex-tourist and sexpat parlance, these are actually called "butterfly", moving from one boy to the next like a butterfly from flower to flower, or "helicopter" in heavier cases. "Butterfly" sounds cute in English, but in Thai they don't call them like the animal butterfly ผีเสือ pĕe sêua but เจ้าชู้ jâo chóo which means adulterer/
philanderer/playboy.

Swans stay with one partner for long time. Those who have a boyfriend fit this category.

Lions live with a harem of partners. Only few people fit this category, I can only think of two posters on the gay forums. You need to find partners who are happy with this arrangement, and it probably costs a lot of money.



Where do I fit in?

Sometimes I get asked: How come that someone as intelligent, good-looking, educated, entertaining, well-mannered, athletic, with a great sense of humor as you does not have a boyfriend?

I used to look for a boyfriend* but I gave up and am content with sleeping around, but clearly separate my various fuck buddies, usually by a day.

*Thanks to the forums, here is a written proof:
http://www.gaybuttonthai.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=5788#p55857

When traveling around its especially obvious that I’m not looking for a boyfriend, but just for some evening entertainment. There is simply not more time than for a quick shag, and it might be a long time until come back. Whereas in Bangkok, there is at least the opportunity to meet for other activities and get to know each other out of bed.

Dating or cheap-ass sex?
Looking for boyfriend or sleeping around?


Finally addressing multiple anonymous comments months ago which said "Dating Thai boys" does not describe my activities, I am looking for cheap ass sex. Most Thai boys look for a boyfriend, often even specifying in their online dating profile that they are not looking for sex, but for a boyfriend. This has almost pathological dimensions, like feeling incomplete without a boyfriend, or being single is almost considered a disease.

I on the contrary am quite happy alone and am looking for a fuck buddy (but depending on circumstances, I might say that I am looking for friend, sex and boyfriend). After years of misunderstandings (I am being generous, often it was greediness, deception by or stupidity of the Thai boy), I gave up hope of finding a boyfriend.

Anyway, I found that apart from sex, I can do everything faster, cheaper and more convenient alone than with a Thai friend/boyfriend/fuck buddy.

My definition of boyfriend: someone you share a refrigerator and a bathroom with and who is your main sexual partner.

The high number of different sexual partners (over 50 per year), most of them only one encounter, is explained by

ChristianPFC’s first theorem of online dating:
In Thailand it’s often easier to find a new sexual partner than meeting someone you know already again.
 

See my monthly reports. When I feel like meeting a boy, I message 5 boys from my list on Line but can’t get any of them to come to see me. Then I go out: massage, sauna or Saranrom to meet someone new. I guess this could be solved by moving to Pattaya (shorter distances, more moneyboys and fewer with a normal job), but there is not much else to do for me in and around Pattaya.

Thai dating behavior is generalized by cdnmatt in Khon Kaen (whoever and wherever he is): 

I've noticed up here -- it's generally only the really young guys, maybe 18 - 22 years that are willing to be money boys. Older ones from mid 20s - 30s are looking for an actual long-term BF. Then the older ones from there in their 40 - 50s are willing to pay me to take my pants off. Guess just the way it works. 
http://sawatdeenetwork.com/forum/sunee-plaza-update-eros-t34445-41.html

Copyright 2015 ChristianPFC except picture and quotation

17 comments:

  1. .. 'Sometimes I get asked: How come that someone as intelligent, good-looking, educated, entertaining, well-mannered, athletic, with a great sense of humor as you does not have a boyfriend?'..

    You forgot to add 'humble' to this list. Unless you were being sarcastic, and I missed it.

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    1. "Sometimes I get asked: How come that someone..."
      I forgot "and big cock".

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  2. How come that someone as intelligent, good-looking, educated, entertaining, well-mannered, athletic, with a great sense of humor as you does not have a boyfriend?
    If you ever had these qualities, they quickly fading away
    My definition of boyfriend: someone you share a refrigerator and a bathroom with and who is your main sexual partner.
    This "definition" explains why you never had a chance to find one.

    Anyway, I found that apart from sex, I can do everything faster, cheaper and more convenient alone than with a Thai friend/boyfriend/fuck buddy.
    Remove "apart from sex", the statement is still accurate and characterize a total degenerate.
    ChristianPFC’s first theorem of online dating:
    In Thailand it’s often easier to find a new sexual partner than meeting someone you know already again.
    It is not modest to talk in third person as you permanently do. "Theorem"? What a bizarre quasi sceintific terminology, totally inappropriate for the subject matter.
    Your "paper" is rejected.


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  3. Have you tried paradise spa on silom soi 6

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    1. I noticed a few weeks ago that Paradise Spa is a new massage place in Soi 6. Walked past and spotted cute boy, but haven't tried yet.

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    2. quite a few hunks there as well

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  4. Only a cowardly degenerate would write that criticism of CPFC anonymously. Don't you get sarcasm and irony?
    If you don't like it, just piss off.

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  5. "How come that someone as intelligent, good-looking, educated, entertaining, well-mannered, athletic, with a great sense of humor as you does not have a boyfriend?"
    Whether its irony or not, one could ask how might the thai guys actually see ChristianPFC? Something like "A bizarre gangly looking fellow who lives in a kind of dump (by standards applied to farang), has no job, has plenty of weird habits, has zero empathy but superior attitude...and is boring to be with"? That what kind of comes across from the postings sometimes. That said, the blog is an interesting read and Christianpfc might well be an interesting person to be acquinted with.

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  6. pure speculation , you don't even know Christian...so stop casting aspersions and projecting your inadequacies on other people...

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    1. For sure it's speculation, but one based on cpfc's own accounts and descriptions here and other forums. "You don't even know Christian..." - that's silly. So when I read a book, let's say an autobiography, I cannot form an opinion on how other people perceive the protagonist? What would be the point of reading it in the first place then, if you cannot have an opinion in the end? And I said that if one gets to know him personally, one could well find good things to say. Another thing that came across is that cpfc is not easily offended by other people's opinions and hardly needs a white knight rushing to his defense at the first imagined offense.

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    2. And another thing- notice that I didn't say anything about his intelligence! When he has an argument, it's actually logical and makes sense (unlike the example above). In scientific parlance, his theorems are proven generally correctly, but the problem is that the initial premises are often faulty. For example, a typical cpfc assumption is that he's a great catch for a thai boy looking for a farang bf. That is probably incorrect and therefore his conculsions also go awry sometimes.

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  7. let's see you become a well-known bugger errrr blogger!

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  8. Again you have no irony-meter, you must be American..

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    1. OMG, if that's the level of the "discussion", then...I give up! Good luck with your irony-meter!

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  9. it's sardonic humor , get over yourself

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  10. Hey you, commenting several posts above, it's easy, don't read it if you don't like it (or like the blogger)

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