Wednesday, 9 November 2016

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction

When ex-BFC3in2016 noticed that it takes me long to get hard enough to fuck him, he told me he doesn’t mind if I want to watch porn to turn me on.

Days later, and just days before return to Germany (9sep-19oct2016) I came across this article: http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/hooked-on-porn-turned-off-sex-a7169701.html where I read:

...is an 18-year-old with a problem. He can’t get an erection with the girlfriend he loves. His issue isn’t physical. Neither is it a typical psychological problem such as performance anxiety. The reason Volakov is impotent, he believes, is internet porn.

and thought: that's close to my situation: I can usually perform well with porn or prostitutes or in saunas, but when I get a cute boy without character flaws for free in my room, I often can't get hard enough for fucking, or stay hard long enough for fucking. Not that fucking is that important to me, I use it as a benchmark.

These sites offer not only a place to share problems but also, they claim, a solution: “rebooting”. Rebooting involves abstaining from just porn; porn and masturbation; or porn, masturbation and sex, from periods of 90 days or longer. “Rebooters” claim that long-term abstinence from porn and the subsequent “rewiring” of their brains (hence the term rebooting) cure all their problems, even impotence.

I can’t fit 90 days or longer into my schedule, but one month is doable.
This is greatly aided by staying in Germany with my parents (I'm rarely alone at home), cold weather and no eye candy. No gayromeo, hornet, gboysiam; maximum is reading trip reports on forums, and if by chance there are pictures of pornographic nature quickly scroll down and no indecent thoughts.

First time since I started to become sexually active more than 20 years that I have spent a month without wanking (and without sex; I had phases in Thailand where I didn't wank for weeks, but had sex instead).

So I managed one month without problems, but it didn’t have any effect on me.

One Canadian study was unable to find any men who had never watched porn.

My first experience with porn was around age 15, when I was at a friend's place and his parents were away, he invited me to watch some white straight porn he found somewhere in the garbage. (Videocassette recorder / VHS cassette at that time) Rather disgusting. Then it took around 10 years until by chance I came across pictures of Asian boys in underwear/swimwear on the internet, which piqued my interest and lead to more research. Nowadays with technical advances I guess you wouldn't find anyone in Thailand over the age of 10 who hasn't seen porn.

My consumption of porn was less than 30 minutes per week last year, and increased to less than 1 hour per week after a friend sent me an invitation to a gay porn group on Line, where I had to check everything that is posted to find the one gem among 100 boring videos.

Copyright 2016 ChristianPFC except quotes in italic

3 comments:

  1. I think its in your mind only- U need to stop thinking when u are trying to make out - not thinking about skin temperature - no thinking character assessment- just enjoy the boy and make him enjoy you - than u will get as hard as a rock super quick - never mind if u jerk every nite or more or not at all

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  2. at home , yes , but while in Thailand it would never even cross my mind to watch port. I'd rather have a stroll with all that eye candy around, even if dressed

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  3. Viagra or similar will work- just low doses for someone your age ;0

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