Dating Thai boys (60) Bas Pitsanulok continued
If you read only one sentence of this post, let it be this:
If you (ChristianPFC) have no money, I (Bas Pitsanulok) don’t
want you (as a friend/boyfriend/sex partner). ไม่มีก็ไม่เอา
(Bas is from Sukhothai, but studies in Pitsanulok, so I
refer to him by either town.) After some very positive encounters end of Jul
2017, Bas asked me to send him money online, which I refused, and from there on
it went downhill. One last encounter in Bangkok ended slightly positive (but
now I ask myself: was there still a chance or did he just try to drain as much
money as possible from me?), and I was looking forward to going to see him in
Pitsanulok as soon as possible (after return from Myanmar trip).
For the right boy I could go anywhere in Thailand, any time.
But here the momentum was lost, so it took some weeks until I had time to go to
visit him, but when I wrote him about my upcoming visit in Pitsanulok, the
reply was indifferent, so I went elsewhere.
But then first week of October, on trip to Phrae – Phayao –
Chiang Rai, I would pass Pitsanulok twice anyway, and could stay a night to meet him, so I messaged him:
Translation, slightly edited:
Bas: I study and work part time.
Video call to talk about my upcoming trip to Pitsanulok.
CPFC: You are cute.
Bas: Can I borrow 5000 Baht?
CPFC: How much is the mobile phone? (Referring to the
video call where Bas told me he wants to buy a new phone.) I don’t have 5000
Baht.
Bas: Second hand mobile phone for 14,500 Baht.
CPFC: I don’t have (the money).
Bas: If you have no money, I don’t want you. Bye.
That’s a very clear message, and stepping back would be a
loss of face for him. But I’m not into this face business, so I can make a
total idiot of me trying to meet the boy again: during the trip sending messages and pictures
from Chiang Rai, and pictures of us from happier times before he asked for money, they were read
but no reply, and at the end not even read (probably because he blocked me on
Line). Call him by phone number: first two calls incomprehensible, then line
occupied. Message and call him on facebook messanger, finally he blocked me.
It’s an absurd situation:
I’m running after the boy, while
he should be running after me.
I have done everything reasonable to get him back, but now I
will move on. Good luck finding someone who “lends” you 5000 THB after knowing
each other for some days!
It started to go downhill here (copy from above link):
2017/07/28(Fri)
18:20 Bas Plok ขอเงินกินข้าวบ้าง
Can I have some money for food please?
18:20 Christian งง I’m
confused.
18:20 Bas Plok ตังหมด I
have run out of money.
18:21 Bas Plok ขอเงินหน่อย
Some money please.
18:22 Christian ทำยังไง How
can we do?
18:22 Bas Plok โอนเงินเข้าบัญชีผม
Transfer online to my account.
18:23 Bas Plok ได้ไหมที่รัก
Can you, dear?
18:23 Bas Plok รบกวนคุณรึป่าว
Am I bothering you.
18:23 Christian รบกวน You
are bothering me.
18:23 Bas Plok เคร Okay.
18:23 Christian เดินทางกับเพื่อนรึ
Are you travelling with a friend?
18:24 Bas Plok ครับ yes
18:24 Bas Plok แต่ไม่มีเงินติดตัว
But he has no money with him.
18:24 Christian ขอเพื่อนไห้ยืนเงิน
Ask your friend for money [we were writing at the same time]
18:33 Bas Plok ไม่เป็นไร
No problem.
18:33 Bas Plok ในวันที่ฉันเดือดร้อน
คุณไม่สามรถช่วยเหลือ ดูแลฉันได้ The day I have a problem, you can’t help
me and take care of me.
18:34 Bas Plok เราจบกันแค่นี้
Let’s split.
18:34 Bas Plok โชคดี คิสเตียนร์ Good luck, Christian.
This (requests to send money online) will happen again with
the next boy, and I have to be prepared. “You are bothering me” is the
truth, but certainly not helpful in such situation.
The truth is, I have the money,
and when I’m home I can send it instantly by online banking, but I will not
because that gives a wrong signal. Best will be to tell the boy I have no bank
account*, and there is no ADM (automatic deposit machine) anywhere near my room
(which is true).
*In general, either cut all money talk short and change
subject, or confront the boy: “if you are looking for money, do so with
someone else”, depending on circumstances.
If a boy asks me to send money online that means
our relationship is going in the wrong direction and he is not boyfriend
material, but at least I could have squeezed out a few more good
free sex if I had played it right, until finally greed breaks through and that
will be the end.
Now looking back, before we first met he had pictures on facebook and hornet of him in a pool in Phuket. Nobody else in the pictures or texts, that should have risen my suspicion: there must have been a sponsor, Thai or Farang, and that set the bar for all coming acquaintances. (A trip to Phuket, a new mobile phone, anything else tangible must come forth after some days of knowing each other. My love, dedication, commitment is not enough.)
Upon return to Bangkok, I posted a picture of a friend's Samsung Galaxy Note 8 with original box on facebook with text: "I bought a Note 8 for a friend in Pitsanulok, but my friend was not free to meet, so I will give it to someone else". I didn't get a reply from Bas, don't even know if he read the post, but got a record number of likes, comments and messages, some of them from people I didn't have contact with for years.
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