Dating Thai boys (55) I’m busy

Dating Thai boys (55) I’m busy

Recently, somewhere I read something like:

source: internet (poorly stitched together by myself)

If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

No matter how busy a person is, if they really care, they will always find the time for you.

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority”, and see how that feels.

And all of them apply to me and the boys I’m dating. (I call all activities online or in real life where I hope for sex at the end "dating".)

At any given time over the last years, there have been 5 Thai boys who are interested in me, but not so much my type, who would contact me every now and then, but I would not take the call (I mean not hang up, but hold the phone in my hand or put it on the table and wait until the call ends, so the boy doesn't know I received the call), or do not reply instantly, and tell them I’m busy.

But the truth is, I’m not interested or don’t want to go out or have other priorities, or even while telling one boy I’m busy, asking another boy if he is free. For the right boy, I could go anytime, anywhere.

And there have been 5 Thai boys who I’m interested in, and who I would contact every now and then with intention to meet (for sex), and who would either read and not reply, or reply slowly, or tell me they are busy.

This is a huge waste of everyone’s time and energy, and after texting and calling with a boy Kuk Chan I had on 15nov2016 (promising in bed) and who lives just 3 km from me, for now 8 months (contact about twice per month, that’s 16 exchanges of text or calls, and he was never free to meet me), I write the following (my Thai and my translation):

พูดตรง ไม่เกรงใจ สนใจเจอกันอีกมีเซ็กอีกหรือเปล่า ถ้าไม่สนใจไม่เสียเวลาอีก คุยกันหลายเดือนแต่ไม่ว่าง

Be straight, no need to be considerate. Are you interested to meet again for sex or not? If not, we don’t have to waste time. We have been chatting a lot but you are never free.

The answer same day: ไม่สนใจครับ I’m not interested.

(Ask an educated Thai friend how he would say it: 
พูดตรงๆ อยากเจอกันอีกป่าว ถ้าไม่สนใจ จะได้เลิกคุย 
but he misses the sex part, or maybe that's un-Thai and implied when we had sex before.)

Finally confirmed, as I had suspected. Can cross this one off my list after one promising encounter in bed and 8 months of fruitless chat.

And continue with the next (Benz Korat 24mar2017, now ex-BFC2in2017, not even fuck buddy; our ideas about friendship and sex and relationship are incompatible):

Here as well, after 4 months of fruitless chat (I would have gone to Korat to have sex with see him again if he had been free, and he has been to Bangkok several times, but never free), ask one straight question and get a straight answer!

And now the earliest case I remember where a boy is not interested. We chatted on Camfrog in 2012 (and from his side it was all: miss you, love you, when do you come to see me?), then moved chat to facebook and tried to meet in 2012 and 2013.

Chat from facebook, the boy’s texts in italic:

You're friends on Facebook Studied (edit) at (edit) University

08/02/2012 9:13pm

Hello, how are you? Hope to see you again on camfrog. Regards, Christian

08/02/2012 10:45pm

Yes!!

11/10/2012 7:39pm

Hello, I will go to Thailand for holiday from 22.11. to 12.12.2012. I would like to go to Chantaburi and meet you. On which days are you free? Regards, Christian

11/10/2012 8:53pm

I have to study everyday

11/10/2012 11:04pm

Even on weekend? I can help you with English language if you want. Or we can try again next year.

Aha What's month you come to Thailand ??

11/11/2012 3:24am

I come to Thailand in two weeks November 21st to December 12th

11/11/2012 7:55am

Holiday ?

11/12/2012 3:15am

Yes, I go to Thailand for holiday.

11/12/2012 1:42pm

Aha

03/31/2013 9:51pm

Hello, I am now living and working in Bangkok, in Lak Si area. If you come to Bangkok, please let me know. I hope we can meet.Or I can go to see you in Chantaburi. When are you free? Regards, Christian

04/01/2013 1:16pm

Tomorrow I go to Chiang Mai with my Parents >3<

04/29/2013 5:36pm

Hello, I want to go to Chantaburi for holiday. When are you free to meet? Regards, Christian

I have to study everyday I don't have freetime I'm so sad !

Do you study even on the weekend?

Yes

If you are free, please let me know. I am free every Saturday and Sunday and can come to Chantaburi.

Yes When I have freetime I want to tell U

05/17/2013 5:19pm

Hello, what do you do next weekend and 24.05. (Holiday Visakha Bucha)?

05/18/2013 12:20am

Yes

05/18/2013 12:06pm

Are you free next weekend? I want to go to Chantaburi for holiday and meet you.

Free

05/19/2013 12:17pm

So I can come to Chantaburi and we can meet? I would like to go to วัดเขาสุกิม. (Wat Khao Sukhim)

05/19/2013 2:03pm

OK Are you sure ? Sometime I think I don't have free time for because next week I think my teacher give a many many homework for weekend.

(Read the above again. The boy is back pedaling. Here I have this picture from an adventure movie where the actors are on a boat floating down on river, and then the current gets stronger, and they can hear thunder, and realize they are approaching a waterfall from the upper side!)

05/20/2013 12:51am

I can help you with homework. 555.

05/20/2013 7:50am

;D

05/20/2013 4:33pm

Where in Chantaburi do you live? Can I stay at your place or is there a hotel that is close?

05/22/2013 8:20pm

Hello, what's your phone number?

You don't come to Chanthaburi because I don't a free time I'm sorry for everything

ok, no problem. maybe next time

Thank you

06/07/2013 10:39am

Hello, I will be in Chantaburi this weekend, to meet a friend. If you are free you can call me.

06/07/2013 12:34pm

OK Your friend is come to chanthaburi ?

06/07/2013 2:37pm

My friend lives in Chantaburi. I will stay at his place. My number is (edit). What's your phone number?

08/05/2013 9:04pm

Hello, how are you? What do you do next weekend and Monday (holiday)?

I have midterm test

02/19/2014 9:21pm

Hello, how are you? I will go to Chantaburi this or next month, to เขาคิชกูฏ (Khao Kitchakut) What is the best time to go there? Do you have time to meet?

I give up. Here the signals are so strong that even someone as socially challenged as I understands that he is not interested in meeting. He was stringing me along (attention whore?) as long as I was far away, but when the plans get concrete, back-pedal.

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Pattaya 18-20jul2017

Pattaya 18-20jul2017

Last trip to Pattaya in May was a full success: http://christianpfc.blogspot.com/2017/06/pattaya-may-2017.html, and now finally I find time to go again. 

Public transport bus 46 in Bangkok, bus 48 from Bangna Trat to North Pattaya bus station, songtheo to walking street, total 127 THB and 3 h 50 min door-to-door.

Tue 18jul2017

So many cute boys on my last trip, in an effort to put two into one night, I invite Gaeng to see me at 1830 (so I don’t waste time with sex while the gogo bars are open, and if the right boy crosses my path I might take him at midnight). On time and everything fine in bed. Now I have had him 3 times in a row, which is a record!

Winner 20:49-21:43. Pineapple juice just 65 Baht! 12 boys and 1 customer when I enter. White briefs “Winner Boy” don’t fit well. Closed shoes. Total 7 customers during my stay.

Tip the boy Add (former Vassa bar) 100 Baht. Not the first time I lay my eyes and hands on him and consider offing him. I can live with the tattoo “ADD” on his back, and the tattoo on his face, and the owl and stars on his chest just pass, but the two butterflies on his inner upper thighs are hideous.

Nice Boys 21:50-22:23. Orange juice 150 (no pj available). 10 boys and 5 customers when I enter. Total 11 customers during my stay. Several of them Chinese (?). When 2 customers and 1 boy start smoking, I make a quick departure.

Power Boys 22:36-23:12. Hot tea 145. 9 boys and no customer when I arrive, 2 customers when I leave.

Euro Boys 23:20-00:27 Hot tea 50. I made several rounds of Sunee in the course of the night, and one of Euro Boys Chan from Cambodia tried every time I passed to get me in, and he is cute, and now is his chance. He and a friend Lao from Lao sit next to me and entertain me throughout my stay. It takes over 10 minutes until I am asked for boy drinks (90 Baht for juice for each of them and 200 tip for Chan at the end – Lao sitting with another customer, else I would have tipped him 100). Promising, will come again for Chan and off him, but tonight sleep more important than sex.

After this very positive experience in host bar (and in May in Jomtien complex as well), I might do more host bars on next trips.

Wed 19jul2017

On last trip I chatted with a very shapely freelance money boy on hornet. Resume contact and try to get him for morning activities, but he is busy cleaning his room (?), so make appointment for tonight. 

Out for sightseeing all day.

In the evening, meet Micky (Mickey?) from Vientiane at Tuk-Com. Good English, efficient communication, on time. In bed everything fine as well. The shapeliest upper thighs I have ever laid my eyes and hands on.

Prism bar 20:47-22:25 Pineapple juice 180. About 17 boys in individual underwear and bare feet. Several of them my type. None of the boys plays on phone (rule of the bar?). During my stay heavy rain outside, so I am trapped for longer than I intended to stay. About 5 customers in course of my stay. Tip #12 and #35 100 Baht each. #1 Dew (used to work in Wild West Boys, then GUY Walking Street) cute but had him several times and boring due to lack of activity in bed.

You can change the table color by pressing the button on the side of the table, there are 16 colors and 4 modes to choose from. They even have a remote control with 16 buttons with the colors.

Kawaii 22:46-23:08 hot tea 150. 7 boys and 1 customer. Individual underwear and closed shoes. 9 boys when I leave.

Dream Boys 22:31-22:45 orange juice 170. 11 boys and no customer. Black individual underwear and closed shoes.

X-Boys 23:12 have a quick look. 3 boys on stage, several more in audience, and about 10 customers. But none of the boys I spot my type, so once again leave without buying a drink.

A-Bomb – 23:24. Hot tea 200. 8 boys in individual white underwear and bare feet. All hunky. None my type. No customer. A-Bomb back to bottom of my list of gogo bars to visit in Pattaya.

Thu 20jul2017

In the morning, try to get a boy for noon, but all too slow in reply. Lunch with Farang friend, talk 3 hours.

I wanted to take the train 14:30, but it’s too late. Buy ticket for van (near Wat Chai) 14:17, departure finally 14:57 (the longest wait ever there). The ticket price has risen to 130 THB, to compensate for lower number of seats: 13 (4x3 in the back one in front). The passage to the back seats is smaller than before!

Pick up more passengers at Bali Hai 15:04-08. 17:21 get out in Din Daeng (van continues to Mor Chit which would be a detour for me). Long wait for bus 13, finally board bus 18:05. When the bus stops I look up from my reading and notice we are in Huay Kwang bus garage, I bordered the bus on the wrong side of the road! In Garage 18:27-32, then continues and I don’t have to buy another ticket. 19:10 pass the spot where I boarded the bus, 19:48 get off in Bon Gai. Total 136.50 THB and 5 h 50 min. Next time take the train. Might be slower, but cheaper and I sit more comfortable on the train than in van back seat.

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Kukrit house in Sathorn

Kukrit house in Sathorn

Full name: M.R.Kukrit's Heritage Home (but in Thai just Baan Soi Suan Phlu บ้านซอยสวนพลู) is a collection of tradition Thai wooden houses in a garden and antiques by former prime minister Kukrit Pramot in Sathorn.

M.R. Kukrit is short for
Mom Ratchawong Kukrit Pramot หม่อมราชวงศ์ คึกฤทธิ์ ปราโมช (Mom Ratchawong(se) is title for great-grandchild of a Thai king, in this case Rama II).

Entrance from Narathiwat Ratchanakarin Soi 7 = Soi Phra Phinit ซอยพระพินิจ = Suan Phlu Soi 1 สวนพลูซอย 1

Open every day 10-16 (except when used for private functions), entry 50 THB for adults. 

Aerial view from nearby The Met Condominium:

Inside collection of antiques, library, khon masks:

Further reading:
http://www.bangkok.com/attraction-palace/kukrits-heritage-home.htm
http://bangkokforvisitors.com/museums/kukrit-house/index.php 
http://www.thaizer.com/tourist-attractions/m-r-kukrits-heritage-home-bangkok/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M.R._Kukrit's_House

List of collections of old wooden houses used as museum:
Jim Thompson House
Kamthieng House Museum  (Siam Society)
Kukrit House
Prasart Museum (admission only on appointment)
Suan Pakkard Palace

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Thai place names in English (joke)

Thai place names in English (joke)

Some not-too-serious translations of Thai place names into English, based on a post I found on facebook:

These are a great exercise for students of Thai, here my translations and explanations where not obvious (some with help of a Thai friend, some translations from Thai2English):

What are these places in Thailand?

1. Stop drug อยุธยา Ayutthaya (หยุด-ยา)

2. Battle town ลพบุรี Lopburi (รบ [to] fight ; combat), or better:

Minus/erase/delete town ลพบุรี Lopburi (ลบ [to be] negative, [to] remove ; delete ; take away)

3. Great matter blue มหาสารคาม Maha Sarakham (สาร săan (a chemical) substance ; essence, คราม indigo ; indigo blue)

4. Mommy room teach แม่ฮ่องสอน Mae Hong Son (ห้อง hông room, same pronunciation as ฮ่อง (no meaning))

5. Diamond complete เพชรบุรี Petburi

6. Pool town สระบุรี Saraburi (same spelling, but different pronunciation สระ sà pool)

7. Money ตรัง Trang (ตัง is short for สตางค์ sà-dtaang colloquial used for “money”)

8. Monk leg สงขลา Songkhla (สงฆ์ Noun, of Pali/Sanskrit origin monk, ขาขา kăa leg ; limb ; foot)

9. Book war สมุทรสงคราม Samut Songkram

10. Fish china town ปราจีนบุรี Prachinburi

11. Invasion แพร่ Phrae

12. Pool magic city สกลนคร Sakon Nakon (สระ-กล-นคร, กล or มายากล jugglery ; conjuring ; magic)

13. City monk milk นครพนม Nakon Phanom (นคร-พระ-นม)

14. City lion come นครราชสีมา Nakon Ratchasima (ราชสีห์ râat-chá-sĕe, one of the words for lion:
สิงโต sĭng dtoh is the animal from Africa,

สิงห์ sing Leo, fifth sign of the zodiac,

ราชสีห์ râat-chá-sĕe yet another mythological lion)

15. No devil town นครสวรรค์ Nakon Sawan (สวรรค์ heaven)

16. Dot meeting mountain lough ประจวบคีรีขันธ์ (no idea about dot; ประจวบ bprà-jùap [to] coincide ; be coincident with ; collide, คีรี kee-ree mountain, ขัน kăn amusingly ; funnily ; ridiculously)

17. Small monk พะเยา Phayao (พระ-เยา [to be] low ; little ; weak)

18. Growth power อำนาจเจริญ Amnat Charoen

19. That (demonstrative pronoun) น่าน Nan

20. Prime Minister’s city นครนายก Nakon Nayok

21. He’s big เขาไหญ่ Khao Yai

22. KFC casino บ่อนไก่ Bon Gai (บ่อน bòn den ; house (used for illicit activites like gambling)

23. Some Crab บางปู Bang Pu (บาง baang Quantifier some ; a few, but here it means village ; settlement)

24. Beautiful circle yesterday งามวงวาน Ngam Wong Wan (งาม in compounds like สวยงาม sŭay ngaam beautiful ; attractive ; charming, วง wong group ; circle ; sector, วาน waan yesterday)

25. Separate dance wheat แยกลำสาลี Yaek Lamsalee

26. Hold elephant เกาะช้าง Koh Chang (เกาะ has two meanings: island and [to] hold ; cling ; arrest)

27. Soft Lady อ่อนนุช On Nut

28. Speaker head หัวลำโพง Hua Lampong

Used to be วัวลำโพง Wua Lampong (cow/bull/ox gets angry and hits people), then during in WWII, loudspeakers were installed to warn people of allied bombings, and the name was changed to หัวลำโพง Hua Lampong. Furthermore, there is Hua Lampong canal (one running along Narathiwat Ratchanakarin road and another parallel south of Rama 4 road)

29. Some 007 (James Bond) บางบอน

30. Not sad อโศก Asok (อโศก has two meanings: Ashoka the Great (Indian King) and [to be] sad ; unhappy ; depressed)

My own addition:

31. The field of the great cloud ทุ่งมหาเมฆ Thung Maha Mek (sub-district in which Malaysia hotel is located)

And some unfavorable English renderings of names of BTS stations:

Mor Chit - More shit, On Nut - One nut, Chit Lom - Shit room.

And equivalent jokes in English language:

Which country in Europe has the most rain? Uk-rain!

Which country in Asia consumes most beer? Singha-pour!

update: town names in Thailand mainly agricultural, whereas in Germany we have Eisenhuettenstadt, -furt (passing over a river), salz and similar industrial/mining.

ChristianPFC 2017