Monday, 22 December 2014

Dating Thai boys (22) Online dating 2014

Dating Thai boys (22) Online dating 2014

An overview over my online dating activities this year. Boys who want to meet for free unless otherwise indicated. Roughly in chronological order. Individual cases as brief as possible.

When I say a profile looks promising, I mean there is not sufficient data (pictures not in focus, too dark, don't show enough) to decide, I have to meet the boy in person before I can say "I want to get my hands into your pants" or "rather not". Usually it's "rather not", but if the boy is nice I play along and we might end in bed. 

There are profiles that are convincing (good pictures and boy looks cute in all pictures), and I would travel two hours to meet the boy at a place and time of his choice. But usually these boys (convincing profile) have no interest in me, an the others (promising profile) are not so much my type.

1. Bank from Ramintra on Gayromeo in January
Some of my readers might know a boy Carl (tall, slim, brown, from Srisaket) who has been working at Banana bar for at least 22 months (first met him in Feb 2013), now imagine a look-alike bottom who comes to your room (I was not in the mood to travel, so either he comes to my room or we can't meet). He is fluent in English (studies English) and I give him my address in Thai, so you think there is no room for misunderstanding.

Half an hour later, he calls from 7/11 near my place, I go down and can't find him. After half an hour running around between 7/11 and sports are, I ask for name and number of the 7/11 he is standing in front of (so am I), it's a different one! He went to a housing are with a similar layout, hence half an hour confusion. Evil forces in the universe preventing me from getting laid! I tell him again where I live and wait in my room.

Half an hour later, knock on the door. He is as gorgeous as on the pictures. After some general conversation, we go to business. But I am very sensitive, the confusion before causes poor performance. In the following weeks I call him several times: no time. I saved his gayromeo profile and pictures right after we met, days later he deleted his profile.

2. Dave in Ladprao on Grindr in February
I was going to see another boy in Ladprao area, when I walk past a bar and one of the staff is cute and friendly. I was chiding myself for not asking for his phone number, but to my great surprise I found later he messaged me on grindr. Without this message, I would probably not have gone back.

Pictures on grindr, gayromeo and facebook promising. Communication online was not forthcoming, so I went back a few times for a drink and a chat (every time spend about 3 hours and 200 Baht). I could not find out when he has a day off, and he finishes work at 2 am. At that time, I prefer to be in bed, sound asleep. But I think the only to get him into my room is to go to the bar at 1 am and take him with me when he finishes work. Alternatively go to his room (if he has free room) before he starts work.

3. M from Petchaburi on Gayromeo in May (ex-boyfriend candidate 1)
He contacted me in April when I was still in Germany, and by a rare case of luck he writes to me again when he is in Sathorn staying with a friend in "The Blooms" and I am in Sathorn looking for a room. We meet without delay and click. Good English, I like the way he dresses (underwear and outer wear), but sex is only so-so (and I don't know why). He leaves the following morning 8 am, and his friend (we were all three in the room over night) seduces me, which causes some drama on Line later.

Meet again in Phuket, now some communication problems and money request. Nonetheless, I plan to go to see him in Ratchaburi some day.

4. M in Sathorn on Grindr in August
Meet at the corner Soi Ngamduplee / Rama 4. Good English, job, education, would recommend to a friend, but not so much my type.

5. Boy in Sathorn on Grindr in August
Meet him at his place (condo in Suan Plu that belongs to a friend). Good English, job, education, would recommend to a friend, but not so much my type.

6. W from Salaya on Grindr in August (ex-boyfriend candidate 2) 
First meeting in a public park. Promising (fluent in English, educated, well traveled). Second meeting in my room, he gets me into bed, but sex is so-so (too fat, too hairy). We still meet (no sex) about once per month and he sometimes stays with me overnight (as a basis for Silom nightlife, his dorm in Salaya is too far away, he shows me profiles of farang on grindr and asks me what I think, then he goes out to meet them). He is completely different from all other Thai boys I have met.

7. Josef in Sathorn on Grindr in August
aka "The boy who carries a metal goods shop in his face"
I shared this story before in a comment here:

Some months ago a boy got particularly lucky. (The boy who carries a metal goods shop in his face, if you frequent Sathorn, DJ station, Silom Soi 4 you probably know whom I’m talking about. I am not at all into this tattoo/piercing/punk look, but there was something that attracted me to him that defies description.) Two years ago, we met in DJ station and I thought it is clear that he would go with me, but when we left he spotted another Farang and told me he would go with him to G.O.D. What the fuck!? But I’m not resentful, when he contacted me recently on Grindr, I gave him a second chance. Pleasant company, but not so much my type. However when we reached the point of lying on my bed and watching gay porn on his mobile and his hand in my shorts, there was no way back. I let him fuck me AND gave/lent him 500 Baht after he told me that an online money transfer from his sister is delayed (yeah, right, I have heard this story before).

8. Boy from Ratchada on Grindr in August
I shared this story before here:

Profile number or name: we_good 13804615
Turned up?: Yes
Turned up on time?: Yes
Looks like photos?: Yes (but pictures poor quality)
Photos current? Yes/No: Yes
Tip was as discussed and agreed upon?: No
Approx dick size in inches or cm. 5 inch estimated, good shape
Position Matches Profile Yes/No:
What he will and will not do is correct? Yes/No:
Was he in a hurry to leave? Yes/No: No
Would you meet him again yes/No: No (too fat)

Original contact on Grindr (a month ago, with same-day meeting), later found him on gayromeo. During chat on Grindr he asked if I could pay for taxi, I confirmed and asked if he is a moneyboy, he denied (hence I gave him 200 Baht for taxi which is plentiful considering the distance, and 100 more after he asked for it). Good English and good communication. Little pubic hair (which I like). Brown skin (which I like). But FAR TOO FAT for my taste. 22 years, 170 cm, 48 kg (on gayromeo) is clearly a lie, and if had known his real stats I would not have invited him to my room. Actually, asking me "You want get hi" should have been enough not to invite the boy.

He was horny, and despite not being my taste, I let him play with me, to reward good communication, punctuality and good English; and sometimes you learn something new.

Today, a friend showed me his picture and pondered to take the boy (whence I know that the boy goes for money, otherwise I would not post this review). He asked my friend about "high" as well.

9. Boy near Victory Monument on Gayromeo in October
Profile promising: 19/63/177. Brown skin, but might be too fat. He lives near Victory Monument. He is studying/working, while I am free all day, so I go to meet him there. He looks cute, but too fat, as I already suspected from his stats. Just 5 kg less or 5 cm more and he would be fine. I wanted to make a list of van stalls at Victory Monument anyway, and that's what I do. He follows me for a while offering his help and then realizes that I'm serious and leaves me. And I notice that you can't just write down destination, line numbers and prices, there is so much that you need a plan for the stalls as well to find them and a plan how to process the data.

10. Pinoy in Minburi on Gayromeo in November
We have been chatting for a while, but he is only free on the weekend, when I am away or have other important things to to in Bangkok (like going to a wat).

11.Boy in Ladprao on Hornet in November
We have been chatting for some weeks, but he doesn't want to come to my place and I don't want to go to his place (at least unless I have something else to do in the area or an emergency plan in case communication breaks down). He messages me when he is horny and invites me to his place, and then complains that I never go to visit him.

12. Tong in Srisaket on Hornet in November (22.11.2014)
Tong 21/62/178. This went quite smooth. He first wrote to me 22:05, last message 22:38 and knock on door 22:48. Profile was promising, but in reality only a "maybe". Some chat first (to give him the opportunity to leave without sex), and then we go to business. He is hard from the beginning and comes on me, but I don't get hard and cite a long tiring day as excuse.

13. Z in Lopburi on Hornet in November (30.11.2014)
His first message to me 19:02, chat on hornet first, then move on to line 19:35, he sends his location 19:49 and I go to meet him (about 500 m from my hotel, he stays alone). I miss a call 19:52 and arrive about 19:55 in front of the dorm where he stays.

Communication breakdown: messages on hornet or line not read, phone call not answered. After calling/messaging every 10 minutes for one hour, I give up. I have been in similar situations before (twice I clearly remember; I was on the way to the boy, communication breakdown). Two days later, we finally resume communication. If you think there is an excuse, you are wrong. Only after asking do I get an explanation and excuse: เมี่อเรี่องนิดหน่อยคับ ผมขอโทด "I had things to do. I'm sorry." followed by "When do you come to Lopburi again?".

14.+15. Two different moneyboys on gboysiam The first one doesn't want to travel that far (from Ramkhamhaeng to Sathorn, one hour by bus), but his profile says outservice. The other one wanted 1500 Baht (a high starting offer) which I countered with 800 (so we could meet at 1000), he didn't accept or negotiate.

I largely gave up looking for money boys online, if a promising profile turns out to be not so much my type, I will have a hard time to explain that we won't have sex and I will just pay for a return trip (by bus) plus maybe 100 Baht for his effort. I don't want to get into this situation.  

16. Geng on hi5 and gayromeo
I have exchanged messages with many boys on hi5 (social networking website), this one came just at the right time when I was looking to meet someone. Fortunately, before setting up a date, I got his gayromeo profile, and that was not "rather not", but "no way!", so after some back-pedaling I got out.

Over all, it looks pretty dire, out of 16
not so much my type: 7
no show: 4
still in negotiations: 3
something to build upon (i.e. I would like to meet again): 2

This is quite complete an overview for online dating 2014 where the stage of "where and when?" was reached (whereas for others, save them for later or just being polite). There are dozens of profiles who look interesting and are interested, but we didn't reach the point of setting up a meeting. There are hundreds who contacted me or who I contacted, but the interest is not mutual.

While I could reconstruct this overview for online dating from memory, I will have to write down data for sauna, massage, gogo separately for quantification, starting next year. From memory:
Massage looks similar, the majority of encounters is so-so, no repeat with that boy. Boys from gogo bars have much higher success rate, there are several in Pattaya and two in Bangkok I would take again. In saunas, most visits no sex.

Copyright 2014 ChristianPFC


  1. It's really quite depressing...

  2. certainly you put lots of efforts into finding suitable boy but all this internet dating leads you to nowhere, save your money for off fee, go to the bar , pick up suitable match and get a fuck like there's no tomorrow.

    Use internet to find travel unusual destinations which becomes your specialty

  3. Even after staying here for 3-4years now, I still cannot understand Thai Boys.

  4. Even after living in Thailand for 4 years now, I still fail to understand the boys. Thus always keeping a distance from them is my best bet.


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